Going through difficulties in our life is inevitable. Coping during these deep, dark, life-altering days that change us forever, and learning to embrace our unique story, is the purpose of life, right? I’ve been through times like that, and had days when I thought I couldn’t go on. Today, I’d like to encourage you to embrace your story, even when it hurts by acknowledging your emotions; choosing grace over guilt; and walking in faith & hope.
Welcome to my first Coffee Break post. My hope and desire in the Coffee Break Series is to share with you, my friends, what’s on my heart. Today I’d like to share with you something that hit me over this past week…the importance of turning our house into a home. What does this mean to us as women, wives, & mothers? And, what does this mean for our families?
So, please join me for girl talk, snuggle into a comfy spot for a couple of minutes, savor your coffee, and prepare to be inspired, sweet friend.
Do you ever wonder what your purpose is? What you were put on earth to do and be? I wholeheartedly believe that we all are given special talents and gifts that can be used to help others. But, what do we do when we are at a loss for how to live with purpose, and focus on our goals and ambitions? Lets explore this together, and take a journey to find our “why”.
Hygge is a way of life, that is embraced in Denmark, where according to various studies, people are happier than anywhere else in the world. By creating warm, cozy homes, celebrating the season, unplugging from technology, and connecting with loved ones and nature, the Danish have learned to live a satisfied and fulfilled life.
I decided to investigate the Hygge way of living, and what I discovered is simple and doable. It’s these simple steps that help the Danish actually enjoy their long winters, and embrace each season of life.
As 2017 is fast approaching, my mind has been reeling with everything I’d love to accomplish in the New Year. I’m a confessed serial goal setter, and barely ever see them to completion. I bet I’m not alone.
I love making New Years Resolutions. I love the feeling of a brand new beginning, and I love taking the time to jot down what I’d like to do, see, and conquer in the new year!
But, how do I…well…we 😉…make measurable goals that we can keep and actually get to check off our to do list at the end of the year?
Well, I went to “All-Knowing” Pinterest to find out, and I’ve got the answers for you here! So, let’s get started on our New Years Resolutions/Goals for 2017, & make it our best year yet!
Just the other day, I about reached my breaking point. I sped in and out of the aisles at Target like I was racing for an Olympic medal, totally neglecting to notice the world around me. I ignored the Christmas decorations, the strands of lights, and the holiday carols that played overhead. I was in too much of a hurry to be bothered with it.
Often times I am awoken at night, with this one question in my head, “when will I get to be a mom?”. The hopes and dreams of what our lives will look like swarm in my head, and it’s hard to then fall back asleep.
Swiftly thoughts of grandeur fill my mind…”we’ll have the most well behaved children, with Pottery Barn Kids styled rooms that will always be neat and tidy”…”our little boy will play hockey & our little girl will do ballet”….”we’ll take them to Disney World every year and go on adventures together”….and “it’ll be just perfect”.
Almost simultaneously, though, my mind is overtaken with negative thoughts like, “what if it never happens for us?” “Will he still be happy being my husband?” “Will I be satisfied with my life if I’m never a mother?” “I’m running out of time…I need to get this going right now!” “But, what if God for some reason doesn’t want us to have kids?” “What if there’s something we’re not seeing?”
Then I think about those empty rooms that still sit vacant across the hall…how we’ve struggled for almost 7 years now with this battle I’d quite honestly like to forget….and one of 2 things happen.
Last year (2015), was what I consider to be my “Bucket List Busting Year”. After suffering a miscarriage the year before after 5 long years of infertility, I was approaching 2015 thinking it was going to be one of the worst years of my life. The constant reminders of what could have been were always on my mind.
I thought I would spend most of that year caught up in pregnancy reminders from apps on my phone, & devastated at every Thursday that passed as I counted down the weeks to my impending “almost” due date, July 4th.
Instead, much to my surprise, I had one of the best years of my life thanks to the Grace of God and the prayers of family and friends.
My Journey to Mommyhood has been long and hard. Patience, after all, is not one of my virtues. (Clearly God is trying to teach me a lesson on that!) 😉
But, one thing I’ve learned along the way, is not to put things off for your fertility…
There’s a verse that has been on my mind lately. I saw this verse recently on Instagram of all places and have had it saved on my phone for a while now. I was reminded of it the other day when I was, according to this verse, acting very foolish…
“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tear it down with her own hands.” Proverbs 14:1
Its an amazing responsibility we have, as the women in our households, to either build up our homes with encouragement, safety, and love…or do the exact opposite and tear it down with judgement, sarcasm, and anger.