Fertility Boosting Bucket List: 10 Things Every Hopeful Mommy-To-Be Should Do

Posted in Infertility
on February 26, 2017

I’m sharing my own Fertility Boosting Bucket List today, with 10 amazing action steps for any hopeful Mommy-To-Be. I thought this list could be useful to any other couples out there who are “trying”.  You are not alone on this journey. So, here you go, my Fertility Boosting Bucket List…. 

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I’ve been super slow, and quite honestly lazy, lately when it comes to getting myself in gear and accomplishing my health goals.  I make all these New Years Resolutions, buy fancy planners to help me brainstorm and stay organized, and yet I can’t seem to get my feet off the ground.

I know that just taking some simple steps toward my hopes of becoming a Mommy could go a long way. But, sometimes I’m my own worst enemy. I work against myself, and set myself up to fail.

At the beginning of the year, I had a clear cut plan to help us get there, and I’ve been failing miserably.  It’s times when I feel down and depressed, that I need to remember this old saying…

“Pick Yourself Up, Dust Yourself Off, & Start All Over Again”

Isn’t this what we do all the time, Mommy’s At Heart? In the frustrating infertility world, I constantly feel like I fall off the bandwagon, in an attempt to just be able to allow myself to breathe and relax for a second, only to end up having to start my process all over again.

I know in my heart of hearts, that there is a healthy fit and fertile girl in here somewhere, I’m just on an extra long journey to find her.

If you are in the same boat, then don’t be dismayed.  You are not alone.

I thought maybe if I shared my Fertility Boosting Bucket List with all of you, then maybe I’d be more inclined to begin to conquer this mountain that’s in front of me.

So, here goes….

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1. Visit a Naturopathic Doctor/Clinician

I began my journey with a naturopathic doctor back in December.  It was unlike any other doctors appointment I’d ever had.  She actually sat and listened to my entire story, did a through examination, and then recapped at the end what she thought we needed to do to get me healthier.

She ordered a boat load of various blood tests, a micro-nutrient panel, a stool test, and a saliva test to check for hormones and deficiencies.

So far, the results that have come pouring into my mailbox, have indicated that I am deficient in several nutrients that are crucial for fertility and hormone balance.  I also have a bacteria in my stool that is not broken down properly in my liver, which causes hormonal imbalance and eventually could cause various forms of cancer including colon and breast.

Its fascinating, terrifying, and insightful all at the same time to be getting results, that I would have otherwise never known, if I hadn’t visited a naturopathic doctor.

My naturopathic doctor asked me, “what did the fertility specialist tell you about your health?”  And, quite honestly they said barely anything.  They told me to lose some weight, but nothing more.

My experience has been, that fertility specialists/reproductive endocrinologists (which is who you really should see for anything relating to fertility…get the referral from your OB and go to an RE!) is that their one goal is to get you pregnant.  That’s it.

They succeeded with me a couple of years ago.  We got pregnant, and then lost the baby at 6 weeks.  But, I wanted something different for us this go around.

I wanted to be healthier and in a better state of mind if I do require medical intervention to help us get preggers.  And, thankfully, I feel like we’re on the right track, which leads me to my next point….

2. Take Prenatal Vitamins & Other Supplements

Women who are trying to conceive should begin taking a good quality prenatal vitamin months before pregnancy.  If you struggle with irregular periods and PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) like I do, I recommend Fertilaid from Fairhaven Health, that includes Vitex Chasteberry and other goodies that help regulate your cycle.

After completing my Micro-nutrient Blood Panel, and discovering that I’m deficient in Inositol, Coenzyme Q-10, and Vitamin K, I’m going to try Fairhaven Health’s new supplement called FH Pro.

Based on the latest scientific research, FH Pro supplies you with a complete spectrum of proven antioxidants, including CoQ10, Vitamin E, and alpha lipoic acid, to protect your eggs against the damaging effects of oxidative stress as the result of age and environmental toxins. FH Pro for Women also contains both myo-inositol and d-chiro inositol, ingredients that have been shown to promote hormonal balance and insulin sensitivity, and to support ovarian function. In addition, FH Pro provides comprehensive preconception vitamin and mineral support, including an optimal dose Quatrefolic™ – the most bioavailable form of folate.

You can read more about FH Pro & other fertility supplements at Fairhaven Health, and talk to your doctor about which supplements might be right for you.

I loved Fertilaid, but now that I know what I’m deficient in, the FH Pro sounds perfect.  Isn’t it interesting that I’m deficient in the exact ingredients that are in the FH Pro .  I’m assuming these deficiencies are common, then in women with PCOS. ? Mind Blown!

{Please do consult with your medical doctor/naturopathic doctor before starting any new supplements.  And always notify any health care providers of any supplements you are taking.}

3. Monitor My Cycles

This gets old really fast, doesn’t it, TTC ladies? Day in and day out, taking temperatures, peeing on sticks, all waiting for that surge or that double line or that smiley face. ? Then it’s “go time”.  Relations, relations, relations, and then 2 weeks later no period.  You get slightly optimistic.  “My boobs are sore, I feel slightly nauseous….maybe I could be pregnant!”

You let yourself get excited for a split second.  You run to Target, and buy all the fancy pregnancy tests…because this could be it, you know.  Pay half a million dollars for sticks your going to urinate on.  But, who knows, that little stick could deliver the most exciting news ever, so why not!

You get home.  You pee on the stick.  And for 2 long minutes you let yourself dream of decorating a nursery, holding your baby in your arms, finally getting to make your big announcement to your family and friends.  And, then….negative.

Cue the tears.  Cue the emotions.  Cue the eating ice cream right out of the tub, cause you know you threw that in your cart at Target too.  You were convinced you were “eating for 2” just a few moments ago.

For us ladies (and our patient hubby’s too) who go through this same cycle, month after month, year after year, we get how much we live for those fleeting optimistic moments, right before the test.

Then, once you’ve done this dance for 7+ years like we have, you just get tired.  The fun of “trying” has died along with the hopes and dreams of this ever happening naturally.

I getcha.  I understand.  I’ve been there.  In fact this whole last year, I packed away my fertility monitor and said forget it.  Of course, as you know all too well, we can’t just forget about it.  And, if I have one more person tell me to just “relax” or “go on vacation” I may completely lose my marbles! ?

If you’ve been feeling the same way, I hear ya!  I know for me, though, it’s time to dust off the old fertility monitor and rev her up, cause it’s time I got back into gear.

If you have PCOS like I do, and especially if you struggle with irregular cycles, you have to try the OvaCue Fertility Monitor.  Not only is it the most accurate monitor for PCOS, but it also gives you a fertile window so you have ample time for “relations”.

The drug store fertility tests often times don’t work for women with PCOS, because they can’t detect an LH surge in our urine. The OvaCue Fertility Monitor, however, detects a hormonal shift in your saliva notifying you of your fertile window.  That’s right, it tests your saliva.

And, if you want to get really fancy, purchase the vaginal wand along with the monitor.  Once my monitor detects the fertile window, I then start inserting the vaginal wand every day which tests my cervical mucus for hormonal shifts & informs me if I’ve ovulated or not.

The OvaCue Fertility Monitor is the only monitor that can confirm whether I’ve ovulated.  However, it’s a smart little machine.  I’ve had cycles where I’ve gotten the pink box signaling that I’ve ovulated, but yet with continued monitoring, the machine has picked up on some issues.

 It was this monitor that first indicated to me that I had issues with low progesterone later in  my cycle.  Low progesterone can cause miscarriage, and my insufficient progesterone levels were confirmed by my Reproductive Endocrinologist. I also discovered that my left ovary wasn’t doing its job, which was later confirmed on hysterosalpinogram. My left fallopian tube was blocked, therefore I was  unable to ovulate from my left side.

This monitor helped me pick up on some serious issues with my cycles.  It’s a smart little cookie.  I highly recommend it, especially for women with PCOS.

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 4. Start Practicing Yoga

My naturopathic doctor talked to me a lot about mindfulness and relaxation, and discussed how important excercises like Yoga are for women trying to conceive.

I’ve read that women with PCOS do not respond well to high impact workouts or intense cardio.  We are a different, yet special, breed.  We need the right combination of diet and excercise to assist with weight loss.

I personally really enjoy PiYo, a workout system I purchased through Beachbody.  It combines Yoga and Pilates to give me a low impact, but fat burning workout.  I love it, and I need to start doing it again.

I felt so strong and confident when I was doing PiYo, that I now feel empowered to pull out the yoga mat and downward dog my way to better health.

5. Clean Up My Diet

One day as I scrolled through Pinterest I came across this pin, and it changed my life.  This blogger changed the way I looked at diets, and I was hooked.

I began clean eating 5-6 days a week, and allowing myself one or two “splurge” days.  And, even though I have PCOS, which makes loosing weight harder, I was dropping weight and inches.  I felt great.

The problem I ran into, was all the prep work.  It took a lot preparation and planning (which I love!), but executing “the eating plan” day in and day out was a struggle.

Eventually for me, I found it easier to go through the McDonald’s drive thru, than to cook and clean up after several meals a day.  And, thus, I fell off the bandwagon.

I gained weight.  I felt terrible.  Sluggish.  And just gross! Ugh!

So, on my To Do List for 2017, is to officially become a “clean eater”.  I want it to be a lifestyle change.  I want it to just be normal.  And, since we are bona-fide foodies, the occasional splurge shouldn’t wreak havoc on my health too much, but still allow me to enjoy a dinner out with my hubby.

However, if this eating plan doesn’t work for you, and you need more structure, then check out Kym Campbell’s 30 Day PCOS Diet Challenge!  Her knowledge regarding PCOS and nutrition will knock your socks off!

6. Try Acupuncture 

I’ve had several friends try Acupuncture for fertility and had amazing results.  My naturopathic doctor encouraged me to try it,  as well.  I’ll let you know how it goes, kind readers.

To read more about how acupuncture positively effects fertility click here.

7. Take Time To Relax

There are studies that suggest that dealing with infertility is as stressful as dealing with a cancer diagnosis.  I thought this was a dramatically different comparison when I first heard this, but the longer I thought about it, it began to make sense.

Infertility, like cancer, is not a diagnosis that we ever contemplate we could be dealing with. It’s life changing not only for the couple involved, but also their families.

 Infertility directly affects your future….whether or not you’ll be parents…and that’s pretty stressful.

I never realized how stressed I was about getting pregnant, until I actually got pregnant. It felt like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders.

It’s very important that we practice the art of relaxing.  There are several ways I enjoy relaxing.  I like movie nights at home, bath bombs, and sitting at the coffee shop listening to music.

Let’s be kind to ourselves, show ourselves some grace along this process, and allow ourselves to breathe a little bit.

And, if you need to take a couple of months off from “trying”, do it.  Lord knows, we’ve taken many breaks along our journey to have a family, because I needed a mental recess from all the madness.

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8. Detoxify My Home

I’ve become addicted to trying DIY Cleaning recipes in my home, because other traditional cleaners tend to give me headaches.  I really enjoy the fresh clean I get from natural cleaners, but little did I know, the toxins and chemicals in traditional cleaners, can negatively affect fertility.

Try swapping out traditional cleaners, with some recipes from Pinterest.  My favorite expert on the matter is Clean Mama, but you can also check out this post to find links and recipes for some of my favorite DIY Cleaners.

9. Save An Emergency Fund

Finances can become really tight when paying for fertility treatments, fertility drugs, or even supplements and acupuncture.

That’s why we’ve made it a goal to save an emergency fund, preferably a 3 month emergency fund, to help cover any additional medical costs I may acquire.  Or, in a best case scenario, to help cover a maternity leave.

Throughout our marriage, we’ve followed Dave Ramsey’s Financial Plan.  It has helped us pay off our debt, and always be conscientious of our savings.

Finances can just be one more stressor that you and I don’t need to be worrying about.  Easier said than done, I realize.  But, having a savings plan in place can help alleviate some of that stress.

10. Continue to Date My “Baby Daddy”

As many of you know, at the beginning of the “trying” phase in your relationship, things can be fun and exciting.  But, as the months and years go on, “things” (ahem…you know what I’m talking about ?) become stale and rehearsed.  Doesn’t sound very romantic does it?

A lot of emotions come along with being unable to conceive.  There’s feelings of guilt, blame, shame, and more that can begin to creep into your marriage.  That’s why it’s so important to continue dating your spouse throughout the process.

The time you spend getting to know your spouse is invaluable.  Allowing yourselves to bond through the infertility process is important, instead of letting it tear you apart.

We love our date nights.  We create memories together.  Laugh together.  Escape life together.  They are a necessity.

I hope you found this Fertility Boosting Bucket List helpful.  Please let me know if there is anything I can help you with along your journey to Mommyhood in the comments below.

Baby dust to us all!

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  • Reply Tonya

    Thank you so much for this post. I know I’m not alone.
    My baby will come soon!
    Your amazing for sharing this information!

    April 26, 2017 at 1:01 am
    • Reply Stephanie Wilson

      Thanks for stopping by, Tonya! I’m so glad you found this information helpful! Prayers & Baby Dust to you, my friend! You are definitely not alone! Hopefully you and I both will be holding our babies very soon! ?

      April 29, 2017 at 5:25 pm

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