My Pre-Baby Bucket List Busting Year

Last year (2015), was what I consider to be my “Bucket List Busting Year”.  After suffering a miscarriage the year before after 5 long years of infertility, I was approaching 2015 thinking it was going to be one of the worst years of my life. The constant reminders of what could have been were always on my mind.

I thought I would spend most of that year caught up in pregnancy reminders from apps on my phone, & devastated at every Thursday that passed as I counted down the weeks to my impending “almost” due date, July 4th.

Instead, much to my surprise, I had one of the best years of my life thanks to the Grace of God and the prayers of family and friends.

My Journey to Mommyhood has been long and hard.  Patience, after all, is not one of my virtues. (Clearly God is trying to teach me a lesson on that!) ?

But, one thing I’ve learned along the way, is not to put things off for your fertility… 


If you want to pursue a career, go back to school, travel, ect…do it!  Unfortunately, fertility is not something that you can always control.  I wish. If we could, I would’ve had a baby years ago, believe me!

But, I’ve learned to enjoy the journey, embrace the adventure and joy-filled memories along the way, and accept that some days are going to be harder than others.

Are you on a long, hard path toward Mommyhood too?  I know I’m not the only one out there!   Hence why you may be here reading this blog, right?

Do you have a Bucket List to keep you motivated and encouraged along your journey?  I do, and it inspires me every day!

Shedd Aquarium

And, last year, the year I thought would be my hardest along this journey to motherhood, ended up being the biggest blessing.  It was a Bucket List Busting Year fo’ sho’!

After such an amazing jam-packed memory filled year, I wanted to start writing a blog to hopefully encourage other women who are also going through infertility and miscarriage, to…

get out there, tackle life, grab it by the horns, and enjoy the ride.  Because as we know, for some us, the road to parenthood can be a long one!

Navy Pier

Here at Lattes, Lilacs, & Lullabies, I write about my adventures through my infertility journey and how I find encouragement and joy along the way, as well as other fabulous things like Date Night Ideas, Pinterest Inspired Crafts & Activities, & Much Much More!

Finally after months and months of planning, Lattes, Lilacs, & Lullabies was born (no pun intended, ha!). ?

Water Tower Chicago

 During that epic year, we experienced so many adventures together….watching hot air balloons glow in Frankenmuth;

Glow Balloons

seeing our reflection in The Bean in Chicago;

The Bean Chicago

watching the sunset over the Chicago skyline from the Ferris Wheel;


 staying in the spectacular Ocean House overlooking the Atlantic Ocean in Rhode Island; {This photo is not my own.  I borrowed it from Travel & Leisure’s Instagram page.  It’s the photo that inspired us to stay at The Ocean House…a place I still dream of to this day ?}

The Ocean House

“swimming” with Juno the Beluga Whale & absolutely falling in love with him;

Juno the Beluga Whale

rolling in glitter at the Color Run with our youngest niece, Bri Bri;

The Color Run

ooing and awing over hot pink sparkly fireworks at Navy Pier;

Fireworks at Navy Pier

getting the wind knocked out of us at Niagara Falls & Cave of the Winds;

Niagara Falls

Niagara Falls

going moose “hunting” in New Hampshire (not to kill, don’t worry!  We don’t roll that way! ? And, speaking of rolling…);

Mount Washington Resort

“banjo rolling”, AKA rocking it out, at Mumford & Sons’ first concert in Michigan;

Mumford & Sons Concert

shopping till we dropped at American Girl Place with our niece Natalie & then stuffing ourselves at The Cheesecake Factory (my all time favorite…I think I would bathe in cheesecake if given the chance and then die a happy lady! ?) ;

American Girl Place

& spending a scary Halloween in Salem, Massachusetts.

Halloween in Salem

To say we lived it up, is an understatement.

My favorite quote for that year was, “It feels good to be lost in the right direction.”

Erin Condren Quote

Even though I felt quite lost in my fertility journey, and wasn’t sure how to pick up the pieces…I kept on keeping on.  I knew I was heading in the right direction, although the path was still unclear.  And, I knew the day when I would finally be called, “Mommy”, was getting closer and would totally be worth all the pain, uncertainty, & confusion that infertility brings.

I still had plenty of days that were hard, where I felt like I couldn’t get out of bed.  But, goodness gracious (that’s a Stephanie-ism for ya! ?), I’m so thankful for the encouragement and prayers of others around me to help me get through an extremely difficult time.

Little did I know that I’d be eating lobster in Bar Harbor, Maine;

Lobster in Maine

Lobster in Maine

feeding a giraffe at a drive-thru Safari;


climbing on the granite rocks on the top on Mt. Cadillac;

My. Cadillac

scarfing down chocolate at Hershey Chocolate World;

Chocolate World

seeing Plymouth Rock where the pilgrims landed in 1620;

Plymouth Rock

visiting Ben & Jerry’s Ice Cream Factory & getting a behind-the-scenes tour (& eating lots of Phish Food! Mmmm!);

Ben & Jerrys

attending Falconry School with my hubby (his idea) and having Hawks land on me ?;

Falconry School

exploring gardens at a French Chateau inspired by Monet’s paintings;


having a Vichy Shower & an Alpine Sugar Glow Treatment at the Mount Washington Spa;

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exploring Shedd Aquarium with my niece and nephew in the Windy City;

Shedd Aquarium

& eating cheese fondue in the clouds at a ski lodge in Vermont.

I could not be more thankful for these experiences & memories with my husband and family.  These joy-filled memories are what kept me going!

{I quite literally cannot wait to blog about all these adventures, but my fingers just won’t type that fast.  So much to share with you all, but so little time.}

Niagara Falls

So, if you are at a standstill in your fertility journey, or you’ve just experienced devastation and loss like I had, & feel as though you can’t go on….I understand.  I’m here for you.

Can I encourage you to make a Pre-Baby Bucket List?  Maybe you want to include some travel items on your list like I did.  Or maybe you have some goals for your health that you want to accomplish before baby… like participating in a fun run, like the Color Run, or trying Accupuncture, or planning a fancy spa day.  Is there a Mission Trip or an outreach program you’ve always wanted to get involved in??  Why not now?? Or maybe you have career goals, financial goals, or education goals that you’ve been putting off. Let’s tackle those together.

Take it from me, someone who’s been waiting a long time for my babies to come, the time is going to pass anyway…so, you might as well put it to good use.

Acadia National Park

Setting goals and reaching them will make you a better future mommy anyways, don’t you think?  You got this!

As bleak and dark as this time in your life may be, happiness, joy, and adventure can be found.  You can smile again.  Trust me.

Here’s to all of us still on this journey toward Mommyhood!  Let’s celebrate this Bucket List Busting Adventure!  Are you ready to get started?  What goals are you going to start today?  Do you have a Pre-Baby Bucket List you’d like to share?  Leave it in the comments below! Thanks for stopping by!

On a side note for all you future mommy warriors out there, I heard this song Rise by Katy Perry on my way into work the other night, and thought, “this is exactly how I feel most days…knocked down and defeated….but I still rise because I have faith”.  Maybe this can be our theme song??!!  Check it out & grab some tissues! ??



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  • Reply Roseanne Mazzella


    August 19, 2016 at 12:44 pm
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